Lonely Christmas

If you are sitting here wondering how are you going to celebrate this Christmas alone, still pondering about the past… the way you used to celebrate Christmas with someone special and unfortunately, he is no longer within your sight even if he still is, but not within your reach, this write up is especially dedicated to you.

Everyone has a past that cannot be erased from their memory particularly when Christmas and Valentine day is just around the corner. Every time you hear the Christmas carols being played, the flash back of his images just drowns your every opportunity to be happy. I used to hate valentine day because I never had one. I couldn’t identify the essence of romance. To me, it used to be just plain rubbish...but if you look at it in a different perspective don’t you think the world seems so much warmer and sweeter with lovely couples celebrating this wonderful day together. At least people celebrate love and not war.

If you are left alone today, it doesn’t mean you cannot be happy for others. The lost of someone may have created a vacuum in your life, and as you grieve your losses you must be careful not to “medicate” your pain with that which will only create more pain. Be strong and bold to face it. Make a choice to heal your wound before your wounds get deeper and left the scars behind. Long ago, I have made the choice to stand. Now I celebrate Christmas knowing I am not unlovable or deficient just because I am lonely. I have value because God made me, loves me, and promises never to leave me.

Grief is a process that must not be denied or hurried. People we depend on sometimes desert us, abandon us and turn away from us. There may be only a few people we can truly count on, sometimes even none. But one we can always count on is God; He will never abandon us. He is the reason we are celebrating this Christmas, and is important to know we are not celebrating without the birthday boy.

Jealousy

I believe all ladies are familiar with this term. We all know when it strikes us but we just couldn’t help to control it and let it ruled over us. Why do the females like to compare with one another? When exactly will we stop making comparison? Whenever a new girl came into the class, you can imagine a bunch of girls already asking questions like; do you think she is pretty? Obviously hoping the answer is a big “NO”. Or statement like, she is not really that pretty if you look close up. And according to the men, whenever girls introduce their friends to them, the friends will never be prettier than the introducer. It is in nature for girls to react with jealousy when she is intimidated.

The fact is we girls are too tide up with the idea of being the only best. Everyone has a different measurement for the best. Even if you think you are the best, but surprisingly to some you might not be. This is how uniquely God has created us. We are too caught up comparing and checking out our competitors and never take a good look at ourselves. We all have qualities that others might not have, if we learn how to appreciate and really be grateful for them, we will not be having this issue at all.

Jealousy brings decay to our lives because it causes us to focus on anger and bitterness. Jealousy tears families and friends apart and apparently, jealousy is famous of being the best friend’s demolisher. There is nothing wrong having more than one beauty on earth, it makes no harm when your best friend excel more than you in examinations. We need to be wiser in handling this unnecessary threat that will only portray the ugly and childish sight of us. The moment you have successfully put jealousy under your feet, it also means you have gain eternal victory over all. An indicator to show you have successfully kill the jealousy in you is when you have stopped gossiping and back stabbing, it is also the time when you truly felt happy for your best friend with their achievement from the bottom of your heart.

Suddenly it seems too difficult to attain especially the gossiping part huh? Like I always feel, living a righteous life is never convenient. In short, you can’t have both. It is indeed a life time choice to be made and your choice of walking through life according to principle often means you must walk alone.

Marriage

All the girls on earth are so afraid of the term old maid, and so they grab the first train that rambles down their marital road. Unfortunately, it only offers a one way ticket to disaster which is worst than spending a life time alone. No turning back! I certainly believe that marriage doesn't revolve around you and your lover, neither it is just for pleasure or fun. Marriage is a relationship where both helping each other to grow and fulfilling their spouse purposes. A marriage is made to bless others.

Many marriages in this generation are being such a baggage to the society instead of a blessing, showing very bad examples to the younger generations. We have couples who said, why get married? The beginning of a marriage is the end of your life chapter. Totally absurd! Marriage has been described like a crime by human beings who simply don’t understand love. Marriage is a covenant... marriage means you have found someone special to walk along with you on your journey of life till the day you die. It grieves my heart to know friends around me who rejects the idea of everlasting love. How can they have this mind set at such a young age? This negative prophecy has been penetrated in everyone heads and even worst, heart. People start a marriage with their mind thinking their love will not last; it is indeed a faithless marriage they are indulging.

Before we step into a relationship, it is crucial to know that you are committing for the long haul. If you cannot commit, don’t say the marriage oath. The inability to see the long-term is the cause for the present divorce rate. Their unwillingness to commit till the end causes them to look at what they can get short-term, and when something better comes along or obstacles they are unable to settle, they leave. In any type of relationship, a long-term perspective is a necessary attribute. It will cause two individuals to overlook present trouble and move toward a purposeful future.

In short, girls should never compromise the criteria you have set for your future partner even if it takes century for your man to arrive. Stop listening to the man, but listen with your eyes. (They are too good in words) Watch them, don’t be rush in making decision. Take the waiting as an opportunity to develop yourself, built your character and when the right man comes along, you are presenting him the very best of you.